The study ultimately finds that men grapple with “having it all” as much as women do. What’s more, a third of Millennial dads say they feel like they’ve lost their identities because they are parents. (Just 19 percent of Gen X dads, by comparison, say the same).
But unlike the judgment women often feel for their parenting or frenetic work/home-life juggle, dads, at least, cut each other some slack. A clear majority of fathers, 78 percent, report that they try not to judge other parents and maintain that what works for one family may not work for another. (In fact, 69 percent say parenting is mainly “about trusting your gut and following your instinct.”)
So although 44 percent of men still don’t believe they spend enough time with their kids, Iudica says that the guys “still think of themselves as ‘Dad, 2.0,’ more improved and more connected with their kids in every sense of the word.” When their child has a tough question, 93 percent of dads want to be the one to answer it.
“This 100-percent involvement is starting to spread them thin,” Iudica adds. “But they don’t want to give it up. For these men, it’s about being able to look back and say that they spent more time with their kids than their dad spent with them. It really is a struggle, but they’re constantly trying to work on it.”
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