Unfortunately, being hurt by the father of your kid(s) leaves a deep wound. A wound that even when healed becomes an emotional scar. Single mothers like my mother and my friend aren’t trusting of men. They are jaded and suspicious. So, they have trouble dating.
Is there a way to turn it around and happily date? Can single mothers turn to men again for love and companionship? Of course. I’ve seen amazing stories of single mothers who have found love and married amazing men. But first you must stop some nasty habits. Single moms, here are seven things you may be doing that are turning men off.
Always Talking About Your Kids
I am not a mother but many of my friends are. I love their kids but I don’t want to hear about everything Joaquin or Sienna did. I want to talk to you, woman! And so do the men you’re dating. When you are out on a date with a handsome man who is courting you, keep the kid talk to a minimum. If he asks, answer briefly. And put away the family photo album. Show him a picture or two on Instagram but that’s all. His eyes, after all, should be on you.
Defensiveness
Men aren’t all dogs. Really, they aren’t. Just because the father of your child hurt you doesn’t mean you need to fight all men. It’s important for you to be aware of your tone and body language. Don’t get snippy. Don’t interrogate him. Don’t eye him suspiciously. Don’t cross your arms as it is a sign of defensiveness. Be yourself and put down your armor. You’ll have a lot more fun and he’ll get to know you past your pain.